Confidence to Lead #4

Here is your 4th confidence building idea for women in business and leadership.

4. Create Your Wealth. Everyday someone tells you to create your wealth. While that’s a statement with truth attached, you also need to know what that really means. You can only create your wealth when you know how. Knowing how requires knowing your real strengths. Women can function for years without ever really knowing their real strengths. Your confidence will soar when you know that you are working from your strengths. That is how you can confidently go about the activities necessary to create your wealth.

Confidence to Lead #3

Women in business need confidence in order to succeed.  Having a strong level of confidence means living a healthier, better leadership life.  Here’s the third confidence building idea for women in business and leadership in the series of seven.

3. Try New Things. This leads to the next point for building a stronger sense of confidence which is to try new things.  One reason people don’t have a lot of confidence is because of the lack of trying something that takes them out of their comfort zone.  Try something new and unusual everyday.  Once you give something a try it breaks the feelings of anxiety or fear from that thing.  The power of that situation, thing, place, or person to control or limit you in some way evaporates once you give it a try.

Confidence to Lead #2

Women in business need confidence in order to succeed.  Having a strong level of confidence means living a healthier, better leadership life.  Here’s the second confidence building idea for women in business and leadership.

2. Use Personal Potential. Recognize that you have unusual personal potential.  In reality, almost every person has the potential for brilliance in life.  But few people really move outside of their small box that they grow accustomed too.  Being a confident woman means trying new tings.  Take risks, go to new places, and make a new contact.  Exercise your personal potential to build your levels of confidence.

Confidence to Lead #1

Women in business need confidence in order to succeed.  Having a strong level of confidence means living a healthier, better leadership life. I’ll share seven confidence building ideas for women in business and leadership over the next 7 posts – Be sure to look for all of them.

1. Recognize Your Unique Talents. Having unique talents can mean being and feeling different from other people.  For instance, you might have an unusually strong sense of intuition. You might be able to see a problem before others by putting loose ends together in your mind. Instead of seeing this as a detriment because no one else seems to be able to do the same thing, learn to recognize where you are different as a unique talent. Embrace your unique talents and use them to move your business to new heights and to be a stronger leader.

When You Have to Keep Going

Here you are, a competent leader in your field.  You have it all together, at least as far as anyone can see.  Your activities are in order, employees are working well, complaints are finally down.   It seems you don’t have a caremarket-consultant in the world. At least that’s what it looks like on the outside. But on the inside and in your private life, everything is not so cheery. In fact, life is getting hard but a woman in leadership can learn how to cope.

Oh- if everything were just so easy as to always be smooth, cheery and supportive.  But the reality of life is that things happen, mostly when you least expect it and usually when you’re overloaded.  That’s just how it is.  Life will not stop to let you catch up, it will not give you a “Kodak moment” to catch your breath.  You will have to continue to keep putting one foot in front of the other while keeping a smile on your face to the world.   That’s what a women in leadership does.

You might be leading your own business, having a teleseminar through the Internet where no on sees your face but only hears your voice.  Maybe you walk the halls of your company and must be the one to keep the motivation up.  No matter how it’s done, you do it well because you’re the on in control.

But for you “life” is happening without stopping for you to find time to fit in another thing to do.  So what do you do?

You keep going.  Without missing a beat, you know that life will eventually straighten itself out. That crisis that is sitting in front of you will pass, as it always does.  You make the decisions that are needed and keep moving ahead.  You know that what you’re experiencing is your private business, not something to share with the public. 

The harsh reality is that few people in your public life (if anyone) really cares about your troubles because they have their own set of problems to deal with.  You know it’s on you.  But in reality, you are not really alone in the crisis.  Just pray about it and you’ll realize that God is there with you – so you are not alone.

When you are facing troubles, but still have to move on, there will be times when you can only let those that need to know, know, then just keep going.  While others in general may not care about your personal issue, you have to keep your professional life steady.  When I had a family health crisis at home, I continued to move through it while keeping my professional life steady.  When the time came that I had to be gone from the workplace for a while, I let a select few in on what was going on.  I appropriately shared the information. This let me be responsible to others and their schedules while not making a big deal of what I had to face.

Keep your wits about you by leaning on your spiritual strength.  Even women with a lot of responsiblities need to find inner spiritual strength.  It might seem that you can handle most things, you might even forget to stop and pray about it. But eventually, you will sit down and have a quiet moment. That’s when it will hit you that you need more than what you have in yourself to get through the crisis.  That’s when you lean on the spirituality of your life to give you inner strength. If you don’t have a spiritual life, this might be the time to think about how to develop one.

listTake a realistic look at your To-Do List. Eliminate the unnecessary so you don’t overburden yourself with too much.  Some things can actually wait for a while.  You don’t have to do it all.  Maybe you need to miss a meeting, or write that memo next week.  Put your activities in priority order, do what is absolutely necessary and put the rest aside for the moment.  You have enough stress, even if you’re not aware of the stress you are going through. Your body is registering stress and it takes a toll on your health.  This could be a time to learn to delegate.  If you haven’t trusted team members to do their job, what better time to test them out than now?  Let go and let those around you do what you brought them on to do.  You could be pleasantly surprised in so many ways through this simple letting go.  You’ll see that thing really can function if you take your hands off of some areas of operation.

Responsible women have to live life everyday, just like everyone else.  You are not released from problems, times of crisis, or troubles that you never expected.  But you can make it through.  These are times of building your inner character and learning more about how to cope when life gets hard.

Enjoying a Break-Down Day

on-holdToday I’ve declared to be my Break-Down Day.  Sounds terrible right?  Actually, it means I’m going to take time to stop, think, feel, let go and be better in the end.   So much has been going on in my life that I just need to stop and let it all sink in.  My mind feels like it’s just scrambling around trying to remember everything I need to do so I get everything done.  It’s gotten so I feel like I have to keep what others in my life are doing in order; which is not my responsibility to do.  But leaders do that type of thing, especially women leaders who are used to doing a lot for others as well as everything she has to do.

So today is my Break-Down Day.   No, it’s not the type of day where I just “lose it.”  It’s a day when I literally “break-down” the realities of the situation, take time to understand what’s going on, and get my direction in line again.

Breaking down the realities.   When life starts to come at you fast and furious, it can seem that you have no space to really live.   Taking time to just stop and look at what’s really going on in your life gives you the chance to get a realistic perspective on the situation.  You will find that you do have time to relax, even if it’s just a few minutes.  What happens is that instead of relaxing, you let the stress of your situation fill up every minute.  You might even fill in the extra space of time with busy activity that could actually wait until another time. Another way to fill the time is with worry – worry to the point of letting your mind make up tragedies and possible bad consequences that really have no place in the situation.  Take time to break-down the realities of what’s going on.  Write it down.  List out 1. What’s really happening, 2. the possible consequences – good and bad.   By putting your worries in writing you will be able to get a sense of what’ really real or not.

Take Good Care of Yourself.  When the stress is at a peak, overwhelm burdens you down and it’s hard to take a deep breathe, reaching for junk food is only natural.  Instead, this is the time to bless yourself with the best foods possible.  Even if you’re not, go vegan for a day.  Eat only fresh fruits and vegetables.  Take out animal products that are harder on your system to digest.  Go for a rich vegetable soup that’s comforting and nourishing.   Eat fruit that’s in season tasting the juicy natural sweetness that will keep you from reaching for a candy bar or a piece of cake that only adds useless calories and saps your energy.

Tap a nap so you get the rest you need. When you’re stressed, the body will be in a fear mode.  Instead of being able to relax, it stays in an “up” position.  Relax. Let your mind relax and your body.  Be kind to you.  Rest.  Go for a walk, read a book, Break-down the troubles in life for just a moment by resting and going to sleep.

Break-down what going on to get a real understanding of the situation.  By rushing around and never stopping to understand your situation you can build in more problems that are actually there.  Stop building up issues you don’t have.  Meanwhile, face the issues you really do have.  Maybe like me, you are having that type of day when you realize how much you’ve been through in a short period of time.  Maybe you don’t have anyone to talk about it all with and it’s just built up inside.  Maybe you’ve been taking care of someone else and everyone is asking how that person is doing, forgetting the stress that’s put on you.  Today is your day to break-down the fact that you need care too.  You need to cry, or scream, or run till your heart rate gets really fast, you need to sweat, or punch a pillow or just sit in a corner and huddle up like a baby.  It’s your moment, your time, it’s all about you just for today, right now.  Take advantage of that.  Understand you need this time because you are all you have and you are precious and good and needed – needed to the point of exhaustion.

Break-down your next steps.  Get the directions you want to go in back in order.  I  know I’ve certainly gotten off the path of my purpose.  Instead of being able to keep that line moving to where my goal sits, I’ve taken twists and turns I can’t even recognize.  If someone asked “where are you” right now I couldn’t answer.  I’m down the street and two blocks around the corner from where I last took a look would be all I could say.   It’s time to stop and break-down my directions again. You might be lost in place right now too.   Stop.  Look up.  Find the street sign on the corner of where you are right now and get a sense of direction again.  You might have gotten so off base that you have to dump much of what you’ve been keeping busy doing.  That’s fine.  That’s progress.  Maybe it will all make sense now.  That’s great too.  Everything you’ve been doing will count for something as you get back on track.

Have a Break-Down Day as a gift to yourself.  Take a look at where you are and break-it-down so life finally makes sense to you again.

Keep Going – Be Confident

Go for the Gold

“Everyone has talent. What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads”. Erica Jong, author

It’s important to have confidence in order to continue with the persistence to keep being competitive in the business world until you reach your goals. The fact is, business is a competitive activity. You have to be good at what you do, offer unique products and services that provide benefits to others, and be confident enough to tell your target market that you are the best business for her or him to select.

Be competitive enough to keep promoting what you have to offer until you reach high levels of business success. That’s the best way to build your confidence and competence to succeed.

Have the Confidence to Succeed in Business

Remember, it’s not about you.

“Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
Harriet Beecher Stowe, writer

Being confident is important in business. But it’s easy to forget that being confident in what you do is not about you at all. As a woman with the desire to serve the world through your talent, you have a unique way to express your life purpose. You know that you were blessed with certain talents because you have a special place to fill in the world of business. 

When you remember that business allows you to provide something of great need to the marketplace, the vision of your work becomes bigger than you.  That’s when you know that being successful in reaching outstanding goals that obviously are not possible through your own doing means it’s really not about you alone. Make it obvious that your confidence is not in your own abilities but stem from your faith to pursue big goals. Do what it takes to learn more and be a better, more confident business woman each day.


Confidence to Lead #6

Are you leading in your life and business?  Women in business need confidence in order to succeed.  Having a strong level of confidence means living a healthier, better leadership life.  Here is #6 of 7 confidence building ideas for women in business and leadership.

6.  Answer the Urge to Create. Confident business women have creative minds and a creative mind is always finding ways to create new things.  Creativity means being able to take things that might seem common place in everyday life and combine them in new ways.  You come up with solutions by looking at situations from a different angle.  It takes confidence to speak out when you have a new idea that runs contrary to normal thinking of the group you’re involved with on a daily basis.